What You Can Do About Mixed Babies and How to Avoid Racism
Many years ago, cultures dictate the marriage life of their children. Fixed marriages are often a normal thing. Even before the baby is born, the parents already have plans for the unborn child. You will just find out that you are engaged at an early age but you can’t do something about it. Before, parents often reason out that fix marriages will preserve the good genes and relationship of a family or a tribe.
“If you are an American, you can only marry an American.” That increases the level of racisms among our ancestors. But throughout time, massive changes happened. Gone were those days when parents tell you who to marry and not to marry. Though some countries still practice this, marriage already becomes a personal decision more than a traditional necessity. As a result, the numbers of biracial or mixed babies are consistently increasing.
What Should You Know About Mixed Babies?
What do you mean mixed? Well, mixed babies (biracial or multiracial) are the babies who have two or more races from the parents. This is commonly known as the “black and white” babies. For instance, your husband is British and you are African. It turns out that the baby will inherit your and your partner’s genes. You will then notice the light brown complexion and other significant features.
Nowadays, biracial babies actually fill up the entertainment industry. They make up a good model, actor, and actress. Just look at the 2016 miss universe. Her mother’s a Filipina while her father’s German. There are other biracial personalities that you are actually idolizing. I can name a few, Dwayne Johnson, Mariah Carey, Bruno Mars, Nicki Minaj, Vin Diesel, Bob Marley, Alicia Keys, and US President Barack Obama.
Whether you are a Caucasian, Italian, American, Asian, or African, this doesn’t make you any different from the crowd. Mixed babies, from all forms and races, are also human. Just like you, they have undergone 9 months of growth and development before they were born. Since racism is a crucial topic, biracial should not also be a ground for bullying.
What Are the Common Misconceptions?
Stereotyping and racial discrimination are just two forms of bullying. You may not know but whenever you ask someone about their physical appearances, you are actually hurting them. There’s nothing wrong with asking but you should also consider the types of questions you are going to ask.
Usually, mixed babies are often stereotyped. Just by merely saying “you don’t look like your mom or dad”, that’s already below the belt. What are the usual misconceptions? Well, here are the common misconceptions about mixed-race people:
- Mixed race people think that they are better than black people.
- Mixed race people are aggressive and violent.
- Multiracial people are novelties.
- Mixed race people are egotistical.
- They are exotic, unhappy, and mentally unstable.
- Mixed-race babies have better health than other people.
- They can only be of fair complexion.
- Mixed race people have it easy.
- When it comes to dating, they will automatically be popular.
- All mixed race people hate their black descent.
- Mixed race people must have beauty privilege.
- Mixed people are always black and white.
- They always have one white heritage.
- Mixed race people have two races only.
- Mixed race people are the mediators of the black and white. They are born to end racism.
- They represent a post-racial society.
- Mixed race people have innate specialty and superiority.
- Mixed race babies don’t experience racism.
- They are smarter than other people.
Why Are Mixed Babies Also Adorable?
If you’re a parent with a mixed race baby, you would probably hear the question “what are they exactly?” at all times. Sometimes, you can also hear other people say “you should have them, model”. Or maybe, you can be asked whether you have expected your babies to look “like that” or to have “lighter complexion”. You will understand what I’m pointing out because maybe, you have experienced it firsthand.
“Mixed babies are usually more adorable.” Well, to tell you the truth, all babies are adorable. They are beautiful, no matter what race or country they are from. They are beautiful. It is safe to say that all babies are unique. There is actually no point in arguing which is cuter or why are mixed babies like this and that.
However, a study conducted in the United Kingdom showed “that mixed-race people were perceived as ‘more attractive’”. “A random sample of black, white, and mixed-race faces was collected and rated for their perceived attractiveness. There was a small but highly significant effect, with mixed-race faces, on average, being perceived as more attractive," the study says.
So, what does this point out? Well, it simply says this can have wider implications aside from plain attractiveness. This goes to show that mixed race people are also competitive in various areas such as modeling and acting. But no matter what, beauty is in the eye of the beholder even if the eye is flawed.
What Are the Common Races?
The list of the usual combination of biracial babies that you can see is actually long. According to sources, the list of the mixed race people has increased all throughout time. Within 10 years, the multiracial population grew by 32 percent while the single-race population increased by about 9 percent. The four common races are Caucasian and African-American, Caucasian and another race, Caucasian and Asian, and Caucasian and American Indian or Caucasian and Alaskan Native.
What Should Parents Expect When Racing a Mixed Raced Baby?
If you are married to another race, your baby automatically becomes biracial or multiracial. If this is the case, you must already get yourself ready before the baby is born. People will always have a say on everything. There are curious jacks you ask everything and there are those who won’t just stop talking.
Getting yourself ready means you have to prepare mentally and emotionally. Because once the baby is born, you will experience the flocking of myths and misconceptions about mixed race babies. For example, remember the statements and questions in the previous parts of this article? Well, there are still possible additions to those.
What are you going to prepare? Why do you need preparation? This is to help yourself be aware of the possibilities that will be thrown at you, especially to your child. Someone may also ask you if you are the real parent of the child. I hope this won’t happen, though. That’s just too much.Here are the things you must know when racing a mixed baby:
- People will ask you if you are the mother. In some cases, mixed race babies take more features from the father than the mother. Sometimes, their skin color will be much closer to their father too. So, expect others questioning you whether they’re your children or not.
- You will not know what you’re going to get. The genes will determine the baby’s features. You may have lighter or brown skin, brown hair, and round-shaped or almond-shaped eyes. You won’t be so sure until you see it coming. You won’t be sure if how the baby will look or what features will she get from you.
- You will have a hard time filling out a form with dual or multiple races or citizenship. There are government forms that only require single citizenship. However, there are forms that allow you to check one or more races.
- Your child will be able to identify one race over the other. This means they might become more comfortable with the race of their fathers or vice versa. Mixed race babies tend to build healthy self-concept. During their adolescence, they will find more peers they can relate with.
- Looking for hair care products becomes challenging. Mixed race people do not only highlight the facial features and skin color of the baby but also the hair texture. To regard this problem, you might like to check for products that are best for the hair of your child.
- You have to explain about races to your child before others start questioning them. The earlier they have an idea about their races, the better. They will soon realize that they have different races so they don’t have to choose one race over the other. You must explain how unique and special they are.
- You will love your mixed race baby no matter what. Regardless of what types of genes are in their body, they are still yours. The same blood and flesh are running through them. Thus, they need to be loved and supported.
What Are the Things You Should Know About Mixed Race Babies?
As I have mentioned above, there are various issues that single race people are throwing against multiracial people. But parents should bear in mind that their child is not different from other children. Here are the things you should know about mixed race babies:
- They will see color. They will soon realize that the three of you have different skin color. They will notice that their daddy’s fair-skinned and you are black but they are light brown. Most of the times, families who look alike do not notice the skin color. So, they will start questioning you about the differences and their observations.
- The people around them will see color, too. This time, people will start asking them. For single race people, it is strange to have people around you asking why you are black or white. But for mixed race individuals, this will be common. Their playmates will ask them why they have different skin color from their parents. People will start to get curious about their hair color too.
- They might want to choose. Sometimes, they will start saying they don’t want your race or their daddy’s race. At times, they will choose their daddy’s ethnicity over yours. Your kids will even complain why they need to be different from other kids. However, you should be more patient and understanding. Don’t take it too much because they are trying to adjust from their environment, from the people around them. You can teach them that they just need to be themselves. They just have to be whoever they want to be, no need to choose.
- They need support and understanding. Usually, mixed race people experience all sorts of bullying. They are not exempted. Most of the times, when other people bully people of different races, they tend to get hurt. Especially when they also have the same race from the one being bullied.
- For instance, other kids will have to say insults about Hispanics and your kid is half-Hispanic. Most people compliment them but almost all stereotype them while some discriminate them. That’s how they will be living. They would be lucky once they find their set of friends who treats them nicely.
- When this happens, you should be there to support, understand, and love them. They need inspiration from their parents that they can stand in any part of the world.
- They want to be reminded how unique, special, and beautiful they are. Parents should constantly remind them of their differences in a good way, not in a weird way. It would take them so much time to accept that they are different from other kids. There will come a time that will stop believing on your encouragements but keep saying it anyway. It may be hard for them to accept it but make them feel that they are always loved.
What Are the Things You Should Never Ask a Biracial Baby’s Parents?
If you are a mom or even a random person with a single race, you should remember this list. You should not ask or tell these lines to the parents of a biracial baby. Although you might find it funny, they are actually offensive. Sometimes, jokes are just used to hide the real intention or meaning of the words. They are more of sarcastic remarks or mockery, insult, and discrimination. So, it’s better if you avoid these lines next time you see a biracial baby.
- What color do you think he’ll be?
- You should make his hair look like this.
- I thought he would be fairer!
- Are you the nanny? Are you really the mother?
- Mixed babies are the cutest!
- How is he going to identify? Will they call themselves black or white?
- Is he yours? Is he really your child?
- What is he? What is their race?
- Do you think she’ll be darker?
- Can I touch his hair?
Mixed Babies Are Not Different
Mixed babies also tend to be compared. They are also the recipient of insult and unsolicited advice. Therefore, next time that you see a biracial kid anywhere, you can all be amazed but do not go beyond the limit. They may seem unique but they are actually not different from other kids.